關於懊悔的語錄，帶你思考「道歉」的真正意義
「對不起」這句話若太常說、尤其是為了同樣的錯誤說，會逐漸失去它的魔力。說「對不起」的第一條原則是：改正錯誤，並確保不再重蹈覆轍。你需要深入問題根源，修正它，並防止未來再次發生。
說對不起並不容易，尤其當你覺得自己並沒有錯。但有時候，表達遺憾能夠平息緊張，重建連結。「對不起」並不是逃避衝突的藉口，而是彌補關係裂痕的一座橋梁。
「對不起」必須真誠傳達。如果你犯了錯，就應該坦承，並懷著懺悔之心尋求寬恕。要有勇氣承擔後果，即使你並非全然責任人。以下是一些啟發人心的「我很抱歉」語錄：
Susan Smith
“I am sorry for what has happened and I know that I need some help.”
「對於發生的事情我感到抱歉，我知道我需要幫助。」
Erwin Schrodinger
“I don't like it, and I'm sorry I ever had anything to do with it.”
「我不喜歡這件事，也為自己曾與之有所牽連而感到抱歉。」
Louie Anderson
“I felt ashamed for what I had done. I don't have any excuses. I did what I did. I take full responsibility for myself and my actions. I wouldn't pawn this off on anybody. I'm sorry it happened. And I hurt people.”
「我對自己所做的事感到羞愧。我沒有任何藉口。我做了那些事，我對自己的行為完全負責。我不會把責任推給任何人。我為事情的發生感到抱歉，我傷害了人。」
Bill Clinton
“It is important to me that everybody who has been hurt know that the sorrow I feel is genuine: First and most important, my family; also my friends, my staff, my Cabinet, Monica Lewinsky and her family, and the American people. I have asked all for their forgiveness.”
「我希望所有被我傷害的人知道，我的悲傷是真實的：首先是我最重要的家人；還有我的朋友、工作人員、內閣、Monica Lewinsky 及她的家人，還有美國人民。我已向所有人請求寬恕。」
Jimmy Swaggart
“I do not plan in any way to whitewash my sin. I do not call it a mistake, a mendacity; I call it sin. I would much rather, if possible -- and in my estimation it would not be possible -- to make it worse than less than it actually is. I have no one but myself to blame. I do not lay the fault or the blame of the charge at anyone else's feet. For no one is to blame but Jimmy Swaggart. I take the responsibility. I take the blame. I take the fault.”
「我不會粉飾我的罪行。我不稱之為錯誤、不實之詞；我稱它為罪。我甚至寧可誇大其嚴重性，也不願輕描淡寫。我沒有任何人可怪，除了我自己。這一切錯誤無人該負責，只有 Jimmy Swaggart。我承擔所有責任、所有過錯。」
Kobe Bryant
“You're my backbone. You're a blessing. You're a piece of my heart. You're the air I breathe. And you're the strongest person I know, and I'm so sorry for having to put you through this and having to put our family through this.”
「你是我堅強的後盾。你是祝福，是我心的一部分，是我呼吸的空氣。你是我認識最堅強的人，我為讓你經歷這一切，也讓我們的家庭經歷這一切，深感抱歉。」
Mel Gibson
“There is no excuse, nor should there be any tolerance, for anyone who thinks or expresses any kind of anti-Semitic remark. I want to apologize specifically to everyone in the Jewish community for the vitriolic and harmful words that I said to a law enforcement officer the night I was arrested on a DUI charge.”
「任何人發表或懷有反猶太言論，都沒有任何藉口，也不該被容忍。我要特別向猶太社群的每一位道歉，為我酒駕被捕當晚對執法人員所說的充滿毒性與傷害的言語致歉。」
Michael Richards
“You know, I'm really busted up over this and I'm very, very sorry to those people in the audience, the blacks, the Hispanics, whites -- everyone that was there that took the brunt of that anger and hate and rage and how it came through, and I'm concerned about more hate and more rage and more anger coming through, not just towards me but towards a black/white conflict.”
「你知道，我真的為這件事心碎，我對在場的觀眾，黑人、西裔、白人——所有承受我怒火、仇恨與憤怒情緒的人——感到非常非常抱歉。我擔心這種仇恨與怒氣會進一步擴大，不只是針對我個人，而是激起更大的種族衝突。」
Anthony Weiner
“I have made terrible mistakes that have hurt the people that I cared about the most, and I am terribly sorry. I am deeply ashamed of my terrible judgment and my actions.”
「我犯下了可怕的錯誤，傷害了那些我最在乎的人，我感到萬分抱歉。我對自己糟糕的判斷與行為感到深深的羞愧。」
Leo Tolstoy
“I sit on a man's back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by all possible means -- except by getting off his back.”
「我坐在一個人的背上，勒住他的喉嚨、逼他背負我，卻還告訴自己與他人我為他感到非常難過，並願意用一切方法減輕他的痛苦——除了從他背上下來。」
Marion Jones
“I recognize that by saying that I'm deeply sorry, it might not be enough and sufficient to address the pain and the hurt that I have caused you. Therefore, I want to ask for your forgiveness for my actions, and I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.”
「我明白光是說我深感抱歉，可能無法彌補我造成的傷害與痛苦。因此，我懇求你原諒我的行為，希望你能在心中找到寬恕我的空間。」
Tiger Woods
“I want to say to each of you, simply, and directly, I am deeply sorry for my irresponsible and selfish behavior I engaged in.”
「我想簡單而直接地對你們每個人說：我對自己不負責任且自私的行為感到深深的抱歉。」
Nathaniel Hawthorne
“Every young sculptor seems to think that he must give the world some specimen of indecorous womanhood, and call it Eve, Venus, a Nymph, or any name that may apologize for a lack of decent clothing.”
「每個年輕的雕塑家似乎都覺得他必須為世界帶來某種不雅的女性形象，然後取名為夏娃、維納斯、仙女，或任何可為缺乏端莊服裝開脫的名字。」
Keanu Reeves
“I'm sorry my existence is not very noble or sublime.”
「對不起，我的存在既不崇高也不偉大。」
Robin Williams
“I'm sorry, if you were right, I'd agree with you.”
「對不起，如果你是對的，我會同意你。」
Patti Smith
“If I have any regrets, I could say that I'm sorry I wasn't a better writer or a better singer.”
「如果我有什麼遺憾，那就是我沒能成為更好的作家或歌手，對此我感到抱歉。」
Rachel McAdams
“If I hurt someone, if I were to accidentally poke someone's eye out, I would laugh. And then I'd say, 'I'm sorry, I really do feel bad,' but then I'm on the floor rolling.”
「如果我傷害了某人，如果我不小心戳到別人的眼睛，我會先笑出來。然後我會說：『對不起，我真的覺得很糟，』但接著我會在地板上笑到打滾。」
Rev. Ted Haggard
“I am so sorry. I am sorry for the disappointment, the betrayal, and the hurt. I am sorry for the horrible example I have set for you... But I alone am responsible for the confusion caused by my inconsistent statements. The fact is, I am guilty of sexual immorality, and I take responsibility for the entire problem. I am a deceiver and a liar. There is a part of my life that is so repulsive and dark that I've been warring against it all of my adult life.”
「我非常抱歉。我為讓你們失望、背叛了你們並造成傷害而道歉。我為我成為糟糕榜樣而道歉……但我必須獨自為我的矛盾言論所造成的混亂負責。事實是，我犯了性的不道德行為，這整件事我負全責。我是個騙子與說謊者。我生命中有一部分如此可憎與黑暗，我一生都在與它抗爭。」
John F. Kennedy
“I am sorry to say that there is too much point to the wisecrack that life is extinct on another planet because their scientists were more advanced than ours.”
「很遺憾，那句玩笑話其實太過貼切：另一個星球上的生命滅絕，是因為他們的科學家比我們還要先進。」
William Whipple
“I am sorry to say that sometimes matters of very small importance waste a good deal of precious time, by the long and repeated speeches and chicanery of gentlemen who will not wholly throw off the lawyer even in Congress.”
「我很遺憾地說，有時一些無關緊要的小事，會因為那些連在國會裡都無法擺脫律師習性的紳士們冗長重複的發言與詭辯而浪費大量寶貴時間。」
Henry David Thoreau
“I am sorry to think that you do not get a man's most effective criticism until you provoke him. Severe truth is expressed with some bitterness.”
「讓我遺憾的是，除非你激怒了一個人，否則你得不到他最有力的批評。嚴厲的真相常常帶著些許苦澀。」
David Crosby
“It's getting to the point where I am no fun anymore, I am sorry. Sometimes it hurts so badly I must cry out loud, 'I am lonely.' I am yours, you are mine, you are what you are, you make it hard.”
「我已經變得不再有趣了，對不起。有時心痛到我不得不大聲喊出：『我好孤單。』我是你的，你是我的，你就是你，而你讓一切都變得好難。」
John Rowland
“I ask the people of Connecticut for their forgiveness, I should have paid more attention to people around me and people that I trusted but I am sorry for my actions and take full responsibility.”
「我向康乃狄克州的人民請求寬恕，我應該更注意我身邊與我信任的人，但我為自己的行為感到抱歉，也將承擔全部責任。」
