52句真實分手語錄：從心碎到解脫，看見愛情的現實與無奈。

為了紀念冬季假期——這是一個特別熱門的分手時節——我們詢問了世界各地的人們，請他們分享對彼此說過最令人印象深刻的臨別贈言。

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“It’s not me — it’s 100% about you. Unless you turn into a different person, this will never work.”
「不是我的問題——這百分之百是你的問題。除非你變成另外一個人，否則我們永遠不可能走下去。」
Tricia Cramblet, Seattle

“I know it sounds selfish,” he said, “but your family just doesn’t have enough money.”
「我知道這聽起來很自私，」他說，「但你家就是不夠有錢。」
Lucile Jackson, Charlotte, N.C.

“It wasn’t anything you did,” my first real girlfriend said. “You were a great boyfriend. I mean, I’d even write you a letter of recommendation.”
「這跟你做的任何事都無關，」我的第一任正式女友說。「你是個很棒的男朋友。我的意思是，我甚至願意幫你寫一封推薦信。」
Jaron Robinson, Spokane, Wash.

“So you’re just going to dump me and send me out into the storm?” he said. “No,” I replied. “I’m giving you an umbrella.”
「所以你就要這樣甩了我，把我趕進暴風雨中嗎？」他說。「不，」我回答。「我這是給妳一把雨傘。」
我們分分合合兩年了。
Kristin Louise Duncombe, Paris

“Ray don’t want to be with you no more,” Louie said to me in eighth grade on behalf of Ray.
「Ray 不想再跟你在一起了，」Louie 在八年級時代表 Ray 對我說。
Vikki Cruz, Bakersfield, Calif.

“I’m pathetic now,” I said, my face smeared with mascara, “but check back in five years, because I’ll be fine, and you’ll still be you.”
「我現在很可悲，」我說，睫毛膏弄花了我的臉，「但五年後再來看看吧，因為我會過得很好，而你依然是你。」
Kristine Tobin Balasz, Charlevoix, Mich.

“I can’t quit and have a little bit,” he said after I suggested we could still be friends.
「我沒辦法戒掉之後又偶爾來一點點，」在我提議我們還可以當朋友後，他說。
India Watkins, Dublin, Va.

“You’re dating me because I’m cute and I’m dating you because you’re rich,” I said. “Well, I’m not that cute and you’re not that rich!”
「你跟我約會是因為我可愛，而我跟你約會是因為你有錢，」我說。「好吧，我沒那麼可愛，而你也沒那麼有錢！」
他同意了。
Mary Hedahl, New York, N.Y.

“You just used me for sex,” he said when I told him I needed to be with someone closer to my age.
「你只是利用我的肉體，」當我告訴他我需要跟年齡相近的人在一起時，他說。
他 27 歲，而我 45 歲。
Michelle Langmead, San Diego

“Why aren’t you crying?” my soon-to-be ex said after breaking up with me.
「妳為什麼沒哭？」我即將成為前任的男友在跟我分手後說。
Hannah Daneshvar, Hadley, Mass.

“I thought you loved me,” I said. “I really tried to,” he replied, gutting me — a failed yearlong audition for love.
「我以為你愛我，」我說。「我真的試過了，」他回答，這句話重擊了我——彷彿一場為期一年卻失敗的愛情試鏡。
Jillian Sanders, Denver

“Those robots are in love — we’re not,” I said to my boyfriend of five years as the credits rolled for the movie “Wall-E.”
「那些機器人相愛了——我們卻沒有，」當電影《瓦力》片尾字幕滾動時，我對交往五年的男友說。
Lu Valena, Boston

“I think we’re coming to an end,” I said as we were about to attend different colleges. “Agreed,” he replied.
「我想我們走到盡頭了，」當我們即將去讀不同的大學時我說。「同意，」他回答。
（互相擊掌。）史上。最棒的。分手。
Maria Agnello, Waukesha, Wis.

“I want to move out,” he said. “Oh, where do you want us to move to?” I said, not getting it.
「我想搬出去，」他說。「噢，你想我們要搬去哪裡？」我說，完全沒搞懂他的意思。
Michelle Brooks, Philadelphia

“Your success is humiliating to me,” my live-in boyfriend said to me three days after admitting to cheating.
「你的成功對我來說是一種羞辱，」同居男友在承認出軌三天後對我說。
Leslie Eaton, Denver

“Only the shell of me is left,” I said, “and I need to walk away before that’s gone, too.”
「我只剩下軀殼了，」我說，「我需要在連軀殼都消失之前離開。」
在鼓起勇氣離開之前，我和一個憤怒的年輕人交往了兩年。
Megan DeRosa, Boulder, Colo.

“OK, Bill Clinton. What do I care?” I said after my then-fiancée tried to lessen the blow of her cheating by saying “We didn’t have sex,” meaning penetrative sex.
「好吧，Bill Clinton。我才不在乎呢？」我當時的未婚妻試圖減輕她出軌的衝擊，辯解說「我們沒有發生性關係」，意思是指插入式性行為。
考慮到我們是 2025 年的兩位女性同志，這有點荒謬。
Macy Jane Anderson, Chicago

“If I stay with someone who feels mediocre about me, I’m going to start feeling mediocre about myself.”
「如果我和一個對我感覺平庸的人在一起，我也會開始覺得自己很平庸。」
Alison Davis, Lafayette, Colo.

“We would have made beautiful babies,” he said, even though he had always dismissed my desire to have children, one of our main incompatibilities.
「我們本來可以生出漂亮寶寶的，」他說，儘管他總是駁回我想生小孩的願望，這也是我們主要的這不合之處之一。
Caroline Paleckova, Prague

“Breaking up isn’t like going to the bathroom,” he said. “Just because all your girlfriends are doing it doesn’t mean you do, too.”
「分手不像去上廁所，」他說。「不能因為妳所有的閨蜜都在做，就代表妳也要跟著做。」
Madeleine Burns, Hanover, N.H.

“I think she’s going to be OK,” my boyfriend messaged after breaking up with me by text. “I let her down easy.” “I think you meant to send this to someone else,” I replied.
「我覺得她會沒事的，」我男友用簡訊跟我分手後傳了這條訊息。「我讓她好聚好散了。」「我想這條訊息你是要傳給別人的，」我回覆道。
Michelle Weathers, Laurel, Md.

“Mispronounce Eyjafjallajökull once more and we’re done,” my Icelandic boyfriend said.
「再唸錯 Eyjafjallajökull 一次我們就完了，」我的冰島男友說。
那座火山當時剛爆發不久。
Barbora Bukovska, London

“I couldn’t leave you,” he said, “so I did something awful so you would leave me.”
「我沒辦法離開你，」他說，「所以我做了一件糟糕的事，這樣你就會離開我。」
在我交往兩年的伴侶確保我看到他和另一個女人在床上後，我求他告訴我為什麼要這麼殘忍。
Julie Melrose, Northampton, Mass.

“I don’t think this is going to work out,” he said. “I don’t understand how you can support the beef industry and believe in God at the same time.”
「我想這行不通，」他說。「我不懂妳怎麼能支持牛肉產業同時又信仰上帝。」
Emily Maher, Reno, Nev.

“I am afraid of your trauma,” he said while breaking up with me.
「我害怕妳的創傷，」他在跟我分手時說。
我是性侵倖存者，而且我很努力地在療癒自己。
Gwyneth Manley, Portland, Ore.

“You obviously want to be sad and I want to be happy,” he said. “And Leonard Cohen does not make me happy.”
「很明顯妳想要悲傷，而我想要快樂，」他說。「還有，Leonard Cohen 的歌不會讓我快樂。」
Deborah Stoll, New York, N.Y.

“You’re not Asian,” said my white boyfriend.
「妳不是亞洲人，」我的白人男友說。
我不是亞洲人；我是混血兒（歐洲和非洲血統），但顯然對他來說是錯誤的組合。
Tracey Huenemann, Vallejo, Calif.

“Break up with Lynn” is what my boyfriend of several months had written as his Friday evening calendar entry that week, which I happened to see.
「和 Lynn 分手」是我交往幾個月的男友在那週五晚上的行事曆條目，而我剛好不小心看到了。
Lynn Gieger, Atlanta

“You deserve to find someone who likes Taylor Swift as much as you do,” she said.
「妳值得找到一個像妳一樣喜歡 Taylor Swift 的人，」她說。
Claire Hsu, New York, N.Y.

“You can’t stay here because of me,” said my 32-year-old boyfriend when I got a job offer out of state. I was 23. “My life is established and yours is just beginning. Go and live.”
「妳不能因為我而留在這裡，」當我獲得一份外州的工作機會時，我 32 歲的男友說。當時我 23 歲。「我的生活已經定型了，而妳的才剛開始。去過妳的生活吧。」

“I am not the right girl for you,” I said. “I will make you very unhappy. Someday you will thank me for this.”
「我不是適合你的女孩，」我說。「我會讓你非常不快樂。總有一天你會感謝我這樣做。」
Jane Ernest, Turin, Italy

“I need to go sow my wild wheat,” he said, forgetting all about oats.
「我需要去播種我的『野小麥』，」他說，完全忘記那應該是『野燕麥』（sow wild oats，意指輕狂風流）。
Alicia Davenport, Atlanta

“I think you probably have damaged eggs,” he, a younger man, said to me.
「我想妳的卵子可能受損了，」還是年輕男人的他對我說。
Carrie Hoffman, East Brunswick, N.J.

“You should know the next girl you’re going to date will be the one you marry,” I said. “It happened to my last three boyfriends. So, I’m really doing you a favor.”
「你應該知道，你下一個交往的女孩會是你結婚的對象，」我說。「我前三任男友都是這樣。所以，我這真的是在幫你。」
Mary M. Conn-Fitch, Ashland, Ore.

“Stay in touch,” he said. “I stay in touch with a lot of the women I’ve dated.” “Great,” I said. “Send me the newsletter.”
「保持聯絡，」他說。「我和很多約會過的女性都保持聯絡。」「太棒了，」我說。「寄電子報給我吧。」
Belinda Whitmore, Sunapee, N.H.

“I feel like dating you would be permanent,” she said.
「我覺得跟你交往會變成永久的事，」她說。
我們當時在讀大學，她還沒準備好進入一段認真的關係。
Nathaniel Hess, Princeton, N.J.

“It’s not you,” I said. “It’s not me. It’s us.”
「這不是你的問題，」我說。「這不是我的問題。這是我們兩個的問題。」
Boyd Crow, Morro Bay, Calif.

“We can break up, or you can stop doing this. Either way, my life is going to get better.”
「我們可以分手，或者妳可以停止這樣做。不管怎樣，我的生活都會變好。」
我受夠了她不斷地在最後一刻取消約會。
Jeremy Lee, Phoenix

“You don’t enjoy the process of thinking and learning as much as I do,” he said.
“You don’t think I enjoy learning and thinking?”
“Well, now I’m feeling attacked, but yes.”
「妳不像我一樣享受思考和學習的過程，」他說。
「你覺得我不喜歡學習和思考？」
「嗯，現在我覺得被攻擊了，但是沒錯。」
Valerie Ding, Brooklyn, N.Y.

“I need someone who leads with a firmer hand,” she said.
「我需要一個能用更強硬手段領導的人，」她說。
Eddie Fritts Tomaselli, Queens, N.Y.

“The problem with us,” he said, “is that we both need a wife.”
「我們之間的問題，」他說，「在於我們兩個人都需要一個老婆。」
Donna Herring, Hancock, Maine

“Jason, I think our fling has flung.”
「Jason，我想我們的一時興起已經興盡了。」
Amina Sarraf, Great Falls, Va.

“We can’t see each other anymore because you don’t have a book in your house.”
“But I drive a Porsche,” he said.
“I rest my case.”
「我們不能再見面了，因為你家裡連一本書都沒有。」
「但我開保時捷，」他說。
「這正好證明了我的觀點。」
Amy Shapiro, Weston, Conn.

“I’ve never been afraid of your love because your love changed my life,” I said to him. “For that, you’ll always be my family and have a seat at my table.”
「我從未害怕過你的愛，因為你的愛改變了我的生活，」我對他說。「因此，你永遠是我的家人，我的餐桌上永遠有你的位置。」
Marcus Porracin, Sydney, Australia

“I never loved you,” he said. “I loved the way you loved me.”
「我從來沒有愛過妳，」他說。「我愛的是妳愛我的方式。」
Eleanor Hutchins, New York, N.Y.

“Getting one last look, eh?” I said as we shared a final hug and I caught him looking down my shirt.
「還要看最後一眼，是嗎？」我說，當我們最後一次擁抱時，我抓到他在偷瞄我的領口。
Madison Kitch, Reno, Nev.

“I can’t do this,” I said after we matched on Jdate and I drove 10 hours to see her. “You look like my oldest sister.”
「我沒辦法，」我說，在我們於 Jdate 配對成功且我開了 10 個小時的車去見她之後。「妳長得像我大姊。」
Stephen Stern, Baltimore

“You care what people think, you care where you went to school and you like brands,” he said. “I think I need to be with someone who cares more about the world than themselves.”
「妳在意別人的想法，在意妳讀什麼學校，而且妳喜歡名牌，」他說。「我覺得我需要跟一個關心世界勝過關心自己的人在一起。」
Abbey Glover, San Francisco

“You’re breaking up with me over the toilet seat?” he said.
“It’s always been about more than that,” I said, “but yes.”
「妳要為了馬桶座墊跟我分手？」他說。
「這從來就不只是馬桶座墊的問題，」我說，「但，是的。」
Rosemarie Boyd, San Francisco

“I really just want to be with a Marxist supermodel with a Ph.D.,” said my love interest, a local activist with a big ego.
「我真的只想跟一個擁有博士學位的馬克思主義超模在一起，」我的曖昧對象說，他是一位自視甚高的當地社運人士。
Reena Liebling, Los Angeles

“It’s like when you move toward me,” I said, “I have to move back, like magnets that repel each other.”
Through tears, she said, “I repulse you!”
All I could say was, “Yes, I guess so, but you know, just scientifically speaking.”
「這就像當妳靠近我時，」我說，「我就必須後退，就像磁鐵互相排斥一樣。」
她淚眼汪汪地說：「我讓你感到噁心（repulse）！」
我只能說：「是的，我想是這樣沒錯，但你知道，這只是就科學角度而言。」
James Geisler, Portland, Ore.

“You had a life before me,” he said, “and you’ll have a life after me.”
「在我出現之前妳有自己的生活，」他說，「在我離開之後，妳也依然會有自己的生活。」
Courtney Gu, Seattle

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